J. Glenn Dulken, MA, LPC
Finding the right counselor that is just the right fit for you, and for this
period in your life is both essential and sometimes challenging. I am providing
this information about myself so that you can begin the process of making the
selection that works best for you.
Lynne and I have been married for over 26 years.
We have three children, two in college and one
recently graduated from college. We are both into gardening and
renovating our old farm house. We have also renovated our marriage and
ourselves extensively over the years because we were not willing to live
mediocre lives or have a mediocre marriage. We have deeply desired to be the
very best parents we could be, to have the finest, most intentional and most
passionate marriage we could possibly have, and to simply live the most
intentional and passionate lives we could possibly live. This journey was not
about perfectionism (though I have struggled with that monster for ever), but a
pursuit of excellence, and has led us to years of soul-searching and counseling,
both individual and couples (the best training we ever did).
Note: In interviewing a potential counselor, always ask, "Do you see a
therapist?", or "Have you worked on yourself in therapy?" If they say, "No", or
seem offended by your question, run...
License, Certification, Education and Training
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, certified by the state of State of North
Carolina. I am also an Imago Relationship Therapist, certified by Imago
Relationships International as an Advanced Clinician.
I have been a professional counselor since 1981, and in private practice since
1993. I was an Anglican Priest active in the parish ministry from 1980 to
1993. I hold a Masters degree in Political Science from the University of South
Carolina, and a Bachelors degree from Washington and Lee University.
My training in Imago Relationship Therapy was with Dr. Patricia Love and Sunny
Shulkin. I have also completed the Imago Single's Training with Sunny Shulkin
and Maya Coleman. I have trained in Jungian, Existential, and Archetypal
Psychotherapy with Chris Saade and Henry Berne, in Psychodrama and Inner-Child
Psychotherapy with Bedford Combs, and in Experiential Group Psychotherapy with
Pam Noble. I have completed both levels of training in EMDR. I have trained in
Clinical Hypnosis with Sandra Sylvester, Daniel Kohen, and Sheryll Daniells of
ASCH. I have also trained in Psychomotor Therapy with Al Pesso, and in
psychotherapy, recovery, and relationship issues with David Calof, Pia Melody,
Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks, John Bradshaw, Robert Johnson, John Sanford, Robert
Moore, and in men's work with John Lee, Martin Prectel, Malidoma Some, Michael
Meade and Robert Bly.
While I have had the privilege of much training from many different sources, the
best training I have received is from years of working on myself in therapy, and
in 12-step programs, and in working with my spouse in couple's therapy. I
believe very strongly that therapists can only be helpful if they are also
continuously working on themselves.
Philosophy of Psychotherapy
I believe it is an intrinsic part of the human experience that we need each
other to grow and mature as individuals. Seeking out a counselor does not
necessarily mean we are sick or dysfunctional. Simply put, I believe we are
designed to need each other in order to see ourselves clearly, to grow, to
evolve, to self-actualize, to flourish, to live our dreams. It is for this same
reason that I have sought out counseling in my life. As a psychotherapist, I
see my job as a facilitator to help you in your journey. I do not believe in
creating dependencies on myself. A central part of my job is to help you
empower yourself as an individual or couple, and eventually for my job to become
In therapy it is your right to direct your work. I will be glad to provide
guidance, but I have no agenda for you except the willingness to facilitate your
progress in your journey. You will be given many choices, and I will always
respect your right to say, "No, I don't agree with this direction you are
suggesting", "I'm not comfortable working with that today", "I don't think this
is the issue", etc.
As with any powerful intervention, there are both benefits and risks associated
with counseling and therapy. Risks might include uncomfortable levels of
feelings such as sadness, fear, or anger, or changes in relationships with
others. Some changes may lead to what seems to be worsening circumstances, or
even losses (for example, counseling will not necessarily keep a marriage
intact.) I will offer suggestions, guidance, and even personal experience, but
ultimately, your decisions, and the application and results of your counseling
are your sole responsibility.
My services will be rendered in a professional manner consistent with accepted
ethical standards. I offer counseling for individuals and couples, and advanced
psychotherapy in group and couple's groups. I specialize in experiential
psychotherapy for individuals dealing with issues relating to relationship,
codependency, recovery, family of origin, parenting, work place dynamics,
personal growth and empowerment. I specialize in Imago Relationship Therapy for
couples seeking relationship healing and enhancement, and in issues relating to
affairs and sexuality. I also specialize in EMDR and Clinical Hypnosis. Group
therapy for individuals is experiential and makes use of Psychomotor, and
Psychodrama techniques. Couple's groups are designed to equip couples with
tools for successful, passionate, long-term relationships.
All information shared by you in sessions is completely confidential. No
information will be shared by me with anyone without a specific written release
signed by you. The only exceptions, ethically and legally mandated, are: (1)
harm, or threat of harm to yourself or another person, or indication that a
child or elder person has been, or will be abused or neglected, and (2) as
required by court order.
If you feel I may be the counselor for you, or should you have any other
questions for Lynne or me, please feel free to give Lynne or me a call.